22 Once more Jesus spoke to them in parables, saying: 2 “The kingdom of heaven may be compared to a king who gave a wedding banquet for his son. 3 He sent his slaves to call those who had been invited to the wedding banquet, but they would not come. 4 Again he sent other slaves, saying, ‘Tell those who have been invited: Look, I have prepared my dinner, my oxen and my fat calves have been slaughtered, and everything is ready; come to the wedding banquet.’ 5 But they made light of it and went away, one to his farm, another to his business, 6 while the rest seized his slaves, mistreated them, and killed them. 7 The king was enraged. He sent his troops, destroyed those murderers, and burned their city. 8 Then he said to his slaves, ‘The wedding is ready, but those invited were not worthy. 9 Go therefore into the main streets, and invite everyone you find to the wedding banquet.’ 10 Those slaves went out into the streets and gathered all whom they found, both good and bad; so the wedding hall was filled with guests.
11 “But when the king came in to see the guests, he noticed a man there who was not wearing a wedding robe, 12 and he said to him, ‘Friend, how did you get in here without a wedding robe?’ And he was speechless. 13 Then the king said to the attendants, ‘Bind him hand and foot, and throw him into the outer darkness, where there will be weeping and gnashing of teeth.’ 14 For many are called, but few are chosen.” (Matthew 22:1-14 NRSV)
Who would refuse an invitation to a party!?!
This is the event of the season: anyone who is anyone will be there. This will be an opportunity to rub elbows with the elite and the powerful and wealthy. You can engage in conversation with the most intelligent; drink the best wine in the kingdom; enjoy delicious food.
Why would anyone refuse to go? Why wouldn’t anyone mark their calendar, buy a new suit of clothes and get their hair done? This is an opportunity for that special spa day for women. Men could get a professional shave from their barber. Get the car washed, vacuum it out and throw away those old McDonald’s bags you threw in the back seat over the past weeks.
You don’t even need a babysitter; kids are welcome.
So, who wouldn’t show up?
Quite a few, according to Jesus. In Luke’s version of this parable, the excuses appear important at first: a real estate sale; an animal auction; a honeymoon. Matthew’s version doesn’t provide any excuses but the invitees make light of it and even commit murder and assault on the king’s servants.
How busy are you? I spent the past year selling and buying homes. It took a lot of my time and energy to prepare my home for prospective buyers to view; to gather the necessary information to provide the mortgage lender; to arrange for utilities and moving vans. It was a distracting business.
I’ve never attended an animal auction, but you can’t simply show up when it’s convenient. You go when the auction announces the date and time. And who wants to miss their honeymoon trip? Money is on the line here. Deposits aren’t returned because the king issued a last-minute invitation.
But, this isn’t just any party. God has issued the invitation. It’s a wedding banquet for his son, code word for the messianic banquet at the end of time. When that time arrives you won’t need that new home, or the animal or the wedding trip. All you’ll want and desire is to be a part of the banquet where people arrive from the east and west and the north and the south.
Yet, we’re all too busy. And at the end of the day, we often can’t state what we accomplished. “How was school today?” we ask our children. “Fine.” “What did you do?” “Nothing.”
Nothing worth talking about. Nothing worth sharing about at the dinner table. Nothing.
How often are our days filled with that. Nothing. Another report for the boss. Another week of housework. Another trip to the doctor. Another Saturday doing lawn work and grocery shopping.
We’re busy taking care of the busy-ness of our lives. The responsibilities are endless. And hopefully, we find a certain joy and contentment in the mundane. We’re blessed to have these chores to do; John Calvin would advise us to settle in, give of our best and accept that we are where God has planted us.
Are we too busy for God? That’s the problem of the man who showed up without a wedding robe.
This answer has two parts to it. The first view is that we are too busy to worship and/or serve. I’ve watched the decline of the mainline church for more than 40 years. Each decade shows fewer people in the pews and more churches closing or merging. Times have changed and sometimes the church has failed to keep up with those changes.
What worries me more than empty pews Sunday morning is the empty building the rest of the week. People come calling seeking food, help with utilities and rent payments or fuel for their car so they can get to work. The pastor handles it or, worse, delegates it to the office staff. No laity are present to assist.
We’ve lost our sense of service and mission. We don’t know how to visit with the poor; we don’t know how to learn from them; we don’t know how to help without enabling them. We can help out with a utility payment this month, but how will they pay it next month?
The excuse is, we’re too busy. Frankly, I think we’re scared to death.
“‘Those people’ are different. They’re not like us.” So, get to know them and learn about their challenges.
“Some of them are using the system.” You’re right. Some of them are. How did they get that way? What can we do to help them find appropriate boundaries?
“They’re argumentative.” I didn’t say you would agree with them or even like them. Just get to know them. Build the relationship with them.
Who do you see as you go through the day? Chances are they’re hurting as much as you are or worse. Everyone has their own issues and regrets and guilt and shame. Let your words speak to them with acceptance and understanding. I’m yet to meet anyone from any part of society that hasn’t a story of disappointment and pain to share.
The one without the wedding robe didn’t allow his life to be transformed. He was too busy to see the people that God put in his path. He was too busy to try to help those who were hurting or poor or abused. He wanted no part of them and so turned away from God’s offer of a life transformed and renewed.
Maybe there’s a second part to this. Maybe the man without a wedding robe refused to accept God’s gracious invitation. He was too scared, or too angry, or too… He couldn’t allow himself to feel God’s mercy wrap around his shoulders; he couldn’t accept God’s forgiveness and grace.
Which are you? Too busy? Too scared? Too wrapped up in your own life to be able to listen to God’s call to you?
We’re all scared. That’s why we begin with prayer.
“Where would you have me go, Lord?”
“How can I use the talents and gifts you given me?”
“I’m not sure I can do that. Help me think it through and imagine myself doing it. Maybe then I’ll see that it’s not so difficult.”
Prayer. Open prayer. Words that express your fear and concern. Words that help you understand your own fear. What if you laid it all for God to hear? What if you told God what bothers you about serving? What if you told God that you want to serve but you don’t know where?
And then what if you simply sat in silence and listened. Allow your mind to wander. Other thoughts creep in; don’t set them aside. Rest in them. Ask yourself if perhaps God is providing an answer after all.
We all want to attend that wedding banquet. It’s a gathering where all God’s people show up; where the best wine flows; where there’s enough food for everyone. So, go ahead. Get that wedding gown out. Allow God’s mercy and grace to enter into your life; give yourself permission to accept God’s call.
It’ll be the most memorable experience of your life. And you’ll wonder, just why did it take so long?
All glory and honor be to God.